You Have Not Many Fathers

Lesson 4 – The Father’s Hands


Everyone needs a hero. This is the reason people idolize movie and sports stars. As a child, we make heroes of our fathers as men who can do no wrong, and then we are shocked when we see them fail. In our disappointment, we’re tempted to reject them, but as we mature in life, we discover our fathers are people like us. They have feet of clay and make mistakes just like we do. However, they have the advantage of twenty to thirty years of experience, so there’s much we can learn from them. A son in the ministry must learn to place his life into the hands of a spiritual father, but we should be careful about who we call “daddy.” We become like the people we follow. Proverbs 22:24-25 If sons are properly fathered into their own ministry, they then, in turn, will be able to father their own sons, and the sons will increase with each generation as they bless the sons who follow them. It’s through a father’s hands that he can touch and mold our life. Here are some things we learn from a father’s hands.


A father is seen through the eyes of a child as big and strong. Good fathers bring security into their children’s lives because of their strength. His children feel safe in his presence because he never intentionally hurts them. They think he can do anything. They love to play games with him because he helps them do things which are impossible for them to do alone. They can ride on his shoulders and see farther than they could ever see by themselves. He picks them up and holds them high above his head. These seem like simple childhood games, but in reality, he’s teaching them about God. One day they’ll learn that only God can help them do the impossible; only God can help them fulfill their dreams. But God gave us fathers to give us a living example of His nature, and a good father points his child in the direction of God. Because no child is perfect, there must be a correction in their lives. Fathers discipline their children because they love them. Discipline is one of the great securities in life. Hebrews 12:7-11 No one enjoys discipline, but it produces fruitfulness and assures us that our father loves us enough to correct us when we are wrong. Almost every parent who has placed a boundary in their child’s life has been challenged over the rule. Many parents make the mistake of changing the rule to try to accommodate the child thinking maybe they have been too strict. But moving the fence only creates greater insecurity in the child. The reason they tested the rule wasn’t that it was wrong, but because the child wanted to know if the rule was secure. Children need good strong boundaries to be emotionally secure. It’s a mistake to continually be changing the rules.


To children, their father can do anything. They’ve watched their father’s hands work miracles. He can take a piece of wood and turn it into furniture, or he can take some clay and make it into a beautiful vessel. They watch in amazement as he takes simple colors and paints beautiful pictures. Again, they’re learning much about God by watching their fathers. God put the desire to learn in a child’s heart, and they learn so much by watching those around them. Good fathers take advantage of this natural curiosity to teach them. They know that someday soon, the child will be in the adult stages of life, and they want to help them reach their potential. The greatest power of leadership is influence. A good father uses his influence wisely to point the little ones following him toward God and their destiny. He knows life isn’t about himself; life is much bigger than himself. Life is about God and reaching the potential which God has placed within us. A good father knows the training which he gives his child will result in even greater accomplishments. The child will go farther than his father has gone. Children are like arrows which we aim toward the target, propel in the right direction and then release to fulfill their destiny. Psalm 127:4


Sooner or later, we learn that our fathers are fallible. They make mistakes just like we do, and many of these mistakes leave scars they’ll carry the rest of their lives. Look at the lives of some of the greatest men of faith in the Bible and you see imperfect men who were used by God. Adam was a thief; Noah became drunk; Abraham was a liar; Moses murdered a man; David was an adulterer, and Peter denied the Lord. Each of them failed, but none of them was a failure. They overcame their mistakes and repented of their sins. God uses imperfect people to do His work because that’s the only kind of people there are. No one is perfect. We’re just people following God. Scars are special when they’re a part of our testimony. None of us should boast because of our sin, but we should boast of the grace of God. My sin was great, but God’s grace was great enough to redeem me.


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Main Topics in the lesson





Proverbs 22:24-25


Hebrews 12:7-11


Psalm 127:4