foundation truth

lesson 24 -parenting

The words “child” and “children” are mentioned about 2000 times in Scripture. Children complete the family, as it was ordained by God. The Bible gives the divine and human viewpoint of children. Every person came into the world as a child!

WHAT IS THE BIBLICAL VIEW OF CHILDREN?

“I have acquired a man from the Lord.” Genesis 4:1

  • Children are the heritage of the Lord. Psalm 127:3
  • Children are as arrows of the mighty. Psalm 127:4-5
  • Children are as olive plants. Psalm 128:3
  • Children are the Lord’s reward. Psalm 127:3
  • Children are a crown. Proverbs 17:6

One of the greatest privileges God gives man is to bring forth children after his own likeness. Children are wonderfully made. Psalm 139:13‑16 They should be wanted and loved.

It is not the love you are thinking that influences your child, but rather the love you are communicating. The greatest motivation for learning is praise.

WHAT ARE THE RESPONSIBILITIES OF PARENTS TOWARD THEIR CHILDREN?

 

  • Children are to be brought to Jesus. Matthew 19:13, 14; Mark 10:13, 14. Hebrew children were presented to the Lord in the Temple at infancy and at age twelve. Luke 2:21-24; Luke 2:41-52
  • Children are to be taught the Word of God. Deuteronomy 6:7
  • Children must receive correction when necessary. The biblical definition of “foolishness” is a bent toward sinful pride and rebellion.

In discipline, do not communicate, “You are wrong when you get caught.”

  • Foolishness is BOUND in the heart of a child. Proverbs 22:15, 23:13-14
  • Foolishness left in a child will produce pride. Proverbs 14:3 Two Rods of Discipline are: Correction or Pride In discipline, attack the problem, not the child.
  • Children interpret proper restrictions as love and a lack of them as rejection. Foolishness and pride left in the child will eventually destroy him.
    • brings contention -Proverbs 13:10
    • brings strife – Proverbs 28:25
    • brings humiliation – Proverbs 29:23
    • brings shame – Proverbs 11:2, 29; 15

Children are to be trained. Proverbs 22:6 Show interest in your child’s little decisions, and he will not grow up rejecting your advice on big decisions as interference in his life. Definition of training: molding character by drilling, discipline; preparing for the contest; teaching by repetition.

Training is more than teaching. Teaching helps a child know what he is to do; training influences him to do it. The former deals with the mind, the latter with the will.

Prevention is better than cure. Do not watch and correct mistakes, but watch and prevent mistakes; this is true training. The highest aim of the training is to lead the child to know he can obey and do right and be happy in obedience. Proverbs 20:11

Habits must precede principles. A child‘s body grows quickly in the first years of life, and the brain is collecting all kinds of information, but the ability to reason is undeveloped. Habits prepare the way for obedience from principle, not command.

The cultivation of the feelings precedes that of judgment. Early years of childhood are marked by the liveliness of the feelings and the susceptibility of impressions. These should be used by the parent to create feelings favorable to all that is good, making it attractive and desirable.

An example is better than a rule. The power of effective training lies, not in what a parent says and teaches, but in what he or she is and does. We cannot teach children ideals we fail to live up to ourselves. When we live what we teach, we are able to teach others to live. Love that draws is more than law that demands. Love never seeks its own, and the love of parents for their children’s lives and gives itself for their full training. Parental love inspired by divine love exercises a mighty influence in the home and is always the inspiration in the secret of effective nurturing.

  • Children are to honor their parents. Ephesians 6:2-3 You must earn the right to be heard. Honesty breeds respect.
  • Children are to obey their parents.
    • In the Lord – Ephesians 6:1
    • In all things – Colossians 3:20
  • Children are not to be provoked, but brought up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord. Ephesians 6:4. “Fathers, do not provoke your children, lest they become discouraged.” Colossians 3:21
  • Children can be worshippers of the Lord. Matthew 21:15-16

How can single parents provide a balanced home life?

  • Remember you are not alone. God promised to be a “Father to the fatherless.” Psalm 68:5
  • Give them godly examples to follow. II Timothy 1:2 Timothy had the example of Paul.
  • Draw support from other family members. II Timothy 1:5

A parent should give his child a context, a sense of destiny, and a meaning.

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About the Author: Dr. Dale Yerton

Dr. Yerton serves as an overseer of a network of churches across the world. What began as a network of six church groups representing 500 churches in Mexico has grown into an international ministry. 

He and Evelyn, his wife over fifty years, live in Hopkinsville, Kentucky. They have two daughters: Lora–married to the Rev. Vince Farrell, pastors of Journey Church in Hopkinsville, Kentucky–and Kari—also of Hopkinsville–and are the proud grandparents of Emma and Bennett Farrell.

Dale Yerton